Horses are masterful teachers for personal and spiritual growth. They support us in our quest to reach new levels of consciousness.
- Communicating in the language of the horse heightens all our senses
- Soul connections – Feeling Unity
- Equal Partnership – Co-creative Leadership
We are so used to communicate with words that we don’t realize how limited this communication is. This limitation is true especially around living beings that do not communicate with words, such as horses. Focusing on words, we not only deprive the horse of a voice, but we also miss out on the communication the horse is offering.
Horses communicate through many different languages, body language, voice, rhythm and energy. When we listen and speak in the language of horse we become more aware of our body and all our senses.
Reading Body Language: A hind hoof placed on its tip on the ground means relaxation if the horse directs its weight/energy towards the ground. However, the horse might be ready to kick, if the body shows tension and the face irritation.
Sensing Energy: Horses can sense intentional energy. We emit energy through our body, eyes, thoughts and emotions. Horses can sense this energy and react to it. This sensitivity gives us an opportunity to practice using our thoughts and body movements intentionally and clearly.
Sensing Emotions: Horses are very sensitive to emotional energy. They can read the emotions in living beings, included humans. This sense is a survival skill and keenly developed. We cannot hide our true feelings from a horse, but we can learn to shift our emotional and mental state into that of calmness and curiosity. Horses teach us to become authentic and focus on the positive.
Authenticity: Because horses can read our emotions, we cannot really hide any feelings. The best way to be with a horse is to be authentic. If you feel stressed, angry, frustrated or any other state you would like to hide, tell the horse about it you cannot fully shift into a calmer state. Acknowledging your current feelings makes you congruent in your emotional and mental body. The horse will feel a lot easier around you no longer receiving mixed emotional/mental messages. It might still choose to move away until you can shift yourself into a more calm, centered state. Knowing the effect you have on your horse you might also choose not to work with your horse at that time but rather spend some relaxing time together. Horses teach us to be authentic and present in the moment.
Movement and Rhythm: When horses play with each other they often adapt the same rhythm in their movements. It emphasizes that they are equals in play and hierarchy is set aside. We too can dance with horses when we are aware of their language and rules. Dancing with horses is a visceral experience of being in unity with another being.
Exploring the language of the horse heightens our own senses and opens us to a partnership that promotes the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual well-being of both human and horse.
Soul Connections – Feeling Unity
“When we are in rhythm with nature it is easy to know when to lead, when to follow, and when to be in the pause. Learning from horses the dance we have with them becomes alive and vital.” – Carolyn Resnick
Horses reach a deep place in us that has often been covered with many layers. The beauty, gentleness, power and wisdom of horses open our heart and allow our own beauty to expand and radiate.
When we invite horses to dance with us, the mutual movement creates a feeling of deep connection and unity. Feelings of excitement, joy, and confidence flood through our body. Together we feel the ease and freedom we yearn for.
Happiness spreads through our heart when we communicate in the language of horse and are being heard. We are feeling the willingness of the horse to communicate and connect with us.
Horses draw us into the present moment when we fully focus on them and allow ourselves to be with them. When time is suspended we can feel our souls connecting.
It is possible to connect to our horse in a deep, respectful, joyous way. Frédéric Pignon is a wonderful example of this kind of connection. This deep bond is created by a deep desire to create a respectful and joyous partnership, listening to the horse on all levels and becoming ourselves fluid in horse language.
We often apply old concepts to our interactions with horses. Dominant leadership is one of those old ideas that need to be updated if we want to partner and co-create with horses. Horses give us the opportunity to develop our co-creative leadership skills.
What feels better to you, to have the freedom of voicing your opinion and being respected or being told/forced what to do without being considered? The horse wants to be respected and have the freedom of choice.
When two beings come together to interact, one of them will make a request to communicate, play, work… In that instant that being is a leader. Most of the time the human is the one who requests, asks, the horse to do something. When the human accepts the horse as an equal partner, the horse is given the freedom to consider the request and voice an opinion. As an equal partner the horse is allowed to say no and/or make a different request.
Horses are willing to accept our leadership if we understand that this comes with responsibilities. As a co-creative leader you have safety and the horses best interest in mind at all times. You adapt to your horse’s needs rather than adapting the horse to your needs. Horses are intelligent, hold wisdom, are creative and can do/sense things we cannot.
As a co-creative leader you listen to the horse and allow the horse to express opinions and point out new ways. You only ask the horse to do things you know it can do. You create opportunities to play and work with each other that are interesting and useful to the horse. Read Imke Spilker’s book Empowered Horses to find out how this can look like.
To become a co-creative leader, skills such as self-awareness, willingness to listen, clear communication, clarity of mind & emotions, quiet confidence, patience, persistence and consistency are essential. You can practice these skills step-by-step with your horse and in your daily life. The effort spend on your personal transformation will come back to you in many forms, beauty, fun, ease, well-being and deep heart-felt connections are only some of them.
Mark Rashid points us to leadership skills such as self-awareness, willingness to listen, clear communication, clarity of mind & emotions, quiet confidence, patience, persistence and consistency are essential. You can practice these skills step-by-step with your horse and in your daily life. The effort spend on your personal transformation will come back to you in many forms: beauty, fun, ease, well-being and deep heart-felt connections are only some of them.
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